We’re about to enter into a very sacred journey with some of you to heal your core wounds — a hero’s/heroine’s journey you could say. As we prepare for this, we’re moved to send a very deep bow to all of you who are engaged in this deep work of healing and transforming the wounds that keep you small, that keep you away from your beloved, from joy, and from your sacred mission on Earth.
And this of course isn’t just for those of you working with us — we know many of you reading this are working with others (or doing your own work), and our bow extends to you all on this journey!
We found this recently, and wanted to share because it’s beautifully written and explains this so well:
Core wounds are wounds that occurred in childhood. These are wounds that happen when one is not tended to properly as a child through neglect, abuse or maltreatment. Parents can damage the core essence of their children without even knowing it. Some caretakers are deficit in their own needs and are unable to give to their child. In fact, the way our culture raises children leads to much core wounding among us all. Everyone has core wounds at some level–some have it worse than others.
The core wound is experienced as deep-level pain due to some unmet childhood development need. This pain is triggered in current day situations when you encounter a similar situation or dynamic. It’s the deep stuff that surfaces when you face difficult losses in life. It’s the pain that is beneath the pain. The emotion that’s fueling all emotions. It’s the pain that drives one to drink, smoke, take drugs, gamble, shop or addictive relationships.
Core wounds include rejection, abandonment, betrayal, loss, injustice and the like. When our needs are not met as children, we experience the core wound and we experience toxic shame. We believe that because we were rejected or abandoned or that we lost a parent or a friend, that we are bad. We turn the external maltreatment internal and onto ourselves. The wound produces beliefs. These beliefs are what perpetuate the wound over and over and over until we die or the wound is healed.
People do anything to avoid their core wounds. Core wounds are the lie that says:
“You’re not good enough.”
“Nobody loves you.”
“You are worthless.”
These voices in both your subconscious and conscious mind repeat over and over in myriad ways throughout your life unless they are healed. You will find yourself getting into scenarios again and again that prove your false beliefs to be true. Your core wounds are the fuel for false beliefs.
Healing the core wounds takes a lot of devastating work; much personal destruction and rebuilding…the key to setting you free is found at the center of the wound. If you want healing, you have to go into the eye of the storm. ~ Jenna Ryan
We (Jill and Remi) both spent decades wrapped up in our own core wounds and living the effects of how we felt based on what we went through in our childhoods, and YES we can say this work is just as she describes — devastating, requiring much personal destruction and rebuilding — going into the eye of the storm indeed.
We can both tell you though, this IS the key to setting you free, and also one of the crucial keys to going into union with your twin flame, and also going fully on your mission as an advanced soul.
Why wouldn’t everyone work on transforming these core wounds? Because we feel the horrors of our pain there, because we feel powerless to transform it, because we face our self-hatred there. It feels far too scary. And it’s also something called internalized oppression — we avoid healing deeply in order to continue to beat ourselves up and hate life. And as painful as that is, it feels safer than transforming deeply.
But our avoidance of going there perpetuates our unlived life — our inability to get the love we want, our not getting the money we need, our not being on mission. And our avoiding healing ourselves deeply guarantees that our twin flame or other soul connection won’t be coming to us — it helps to keep us safe!
If you know you still have core wounds to heal, this is the time when the energies are here to support you in doing this. Freedom is right here for you. There are many resources out there for you to support you in this — but please don’t waste your time with people who are either promising you a quick, easy fix around your emotions by avoiding your feelings or focusing only on the light (spiritual bypass), or are using old-school “traditional” methods of counseling. These likely won’t take you very far and won’t help you much, and can even make things worse as you can feel discouraged when you don’t feel better.
If you’ve been focused mostly on your twin flame and what they need to heal — now would be a great time to turn your focus to you. Paradoxically, the road to union in great part lies with the self. We must transform ourselves very deeply — otherwise, our twin will reflect our wounds and remain in avoidance or acting out. We can’t promise you they’ll come to you if you clean out your basement — no one can. But we can promise you it’s far more likely to happen if you work very deeply on yourself. We know, it’s really hard and really scary to do so. But this is where the gold is!
One of the reasons we avoid deep healing is because we’re afraid of more pain. That’s one of the old ways of healing — feeling our pain very deeply. That method is retraumatizing for a lot of people. We end up feeling worse or, at least, no better.
Healing doesn’t have to hurt so much! We think of what we do as “touch and go” — you touch into what needs to be healed, then apply the remedy to transform it quickly. You cry, you feel, you release, and the energy moves. Relief is very fast, and then your life changes accordingly. Did you know even major traumas can be transformed in a minute or two using energy healing methods? Yes, they can.
In healing your core wounds, you have NOTHING to lose and absolutely everything to gain. When you are vibrating as a transformed being, life can’t help but meet you there.
We share a lot of our hair-raising challenges and moments as twin flames, and we are also here to share with you the utter bliss and wonder that we live on a daily basis, having gone through the eye of the storm and made it out on the other side.
Healing and ascension, healing and mission, healing and union are all intertwined. In many ways, healing your core wounds are your ticket to reclaiming your sacred self and sacred life. Healing at this level is the re-establishment of the sacred self, where you are free to participate in the cosmic dance of the beloved, being fully on mission
As we jokingly say to each other: “that’s not so bad!”
Sometimes we don’t do this work until it just plain hurts too much not to. A favorite story of ours is from Neale Donald Walsch, the author and teacher, whose core wounds had pushed him to the very basement of life — homeless, having lost everything, in utter darkness — rock bottom. He recalls the moment when he awoke in the early hours of the morning and heard a voice say: “Have you had enough yet?”
His answer was a definite “yes.” And then his journey began…
Have you had enough yet?
If so, what are you waiting for?
© Twin Flame Healers